If you are reading my blog right now you probably have a child or a grandchild who has indicated they see, hear and communicate with Spirit. Many children astound and startle their parents with information they couldn’t possible know… Such as their deceased loved ones name, what they look like and other incidences & occurrences that absolutely has not been discussed around them at some stage and happened before they were even born. They have this profound knowledge beyond their time.
They may speak of “Imaginary friends” who come and play with them, however this imaginary friend seems to stick around for a while and your child knows their name, whether they are another small child or grown Spirit and other peculiar details, so detailed that it has you wondering if they do have a special connection to what most adults are blind to.
Unfortunately it is not always giggles, smiles and roses. Some children are afraid of what they see and sadly many parents assume because their child is afraid or even terrified, there must be something around them closely resembling something from the latest horridly, haunted, Hollywood blockbuster. So many parents have to be careful of overreacting and creating something to be worse than it is. If your child senses you are afraid of them being afraid, it will only exacerbate the issue.
I remember reading somewhere someone tied the cupboard doors shut as their daughter saw Spirit there and was afraid. As well intentioned as that was, they were subconsciously telling their child “Yes there’s something there and it must be bad or evil because I’m preventing it from coming out” and then that just conditions the child to be afraid of closed spaces and what could be in there as well as conditioning them to be afraid of Spirit and their connection, not to mention they will never sleep or play in that room again.
And to be honest, this is why many adults who can sense Spirit around them too, shut their connection down and refuse to explore their sixth sense when 99.9% of the time, it’s just a loved one checking in, Spirit Guides saying hello or a friendly rogue Spirit, simply passing through on their way. Don’t be afraid to say hello and thank you for visiting! After all when we acknowledge our loved ones presence they surely give more signs.
So why do babies and small children connect with Spirit so clearly?
The answer is where we come from and where we return is exactly the same place. We simply ARE spirit, however in life we have a physical vessel that carries us around. We simply lose our ship, that is all. Your loved ones meet your baby before they are born as your baby is a soul about to be conceived by you. As they are born, they still have that strong Spirit connection. Babies laugh and giggle and stare off in to corners of the room because they remember familiar faces that they met before coming in to the physical world. Many people who take family photographs report their little one staring off in to a distance with their eyes gazing upon what appears to be a big, beautiful magnificent orb which can be Spirit energy caught on camera. Some people believe in orbs, others don’t – that’s a debate for another thread.
So why do some children lose their connection?
As children grow older they are often discouraged from having “imaginary friends”, that their imagination is in overdrive, some parents discredit and discourage the connection and it slowly becomes severed. Sometimes because of religious beliefs, their child is forbidden to speak of Spirit visits. They then go to school and play time is over, they are structured in to an education system. Then they are consumed by physical things such as play-stations and action figures. Then they get older and their mind is omnipresent and directed towards consumerism such as the latest trends, interested in pursuing relationships, sports. They grow older again and try to “keep up with the Joneses” by making sure they make enough abundance, the latest car, mobile, home. Before we know it, we have become completely unnatural and disconnected to what was once was.
How can you nurture your child’s connection? How can you help them to feel unafraid?
The answer to this is multifaceted and quite complex as it will be different for each child. However I will address the most common and successful suggestions. Explain the Spirit world to your children and how they are surrounded by very loving-beings who have unconditional love for them. That they are watched over and protected by our loved ones from “heaven” – That they only wish to say hello. Children are afraid of what they don’t understand sometimes so be positive, uplifting and answer their questions with love and certainty in your voice. If you behave in a manner where you truly believe Spirit is a big part of your life and model that it isn’t a big deal, they will surely begin to believe you.
Keep in mind as their parent or guardian you have the right to ask on your children’s behalf that the Spirit/s please not visit and leave as they are currently frightening your child. Thank them for their time and send them on. Keep in mind if you want the visits to come back or direct them to you only, to be perfectly clear on your expectations. You could try to make your child feel in control by perhaps giving them a very special crystal they can hold and if they get afraid they can hold their crystal that might give them “special brave powers” or they can ask the Spirit to leave themselves until they are brave enough to experience the encounter.
*Please note some crystals shouldn’t be placed in a room and can contribute to insomnia & over activity. Some perfectly safe ones to use would be:
Rose quartz: Love, purity, harmony.
Aventurine: Which can help your child become fearless.
Amethyst: Transmutes most negative energies and is often used to help children overcome sadness or fear. It also helps to stop nightmares and better sleeping patterns.
Chrysoprase: is good for stopping nightmares.
Golden Calcite: Helps children with self-esteem
Clear Quartz: Aids a child in conquering disharmonious thought patterns.
Hematite: Amplifies protection and encourages strength and courage.
Raise the vibrational energy in your little one’s room by perhaps singing, dancing and having a few giggles. Give them a cuddle and read them a story. They need to feel that their room is a safe environment, the high level energy will take away any fear or negative energy that exists and over-write it (start fresh). Do this on a regular occurrence to keep the energy light.
As children become older and wish to explore their ability, allow them to read books and research what they are interested in. Tell them to be critical of everything they read and only take the parts that resonate with them and discard of the rest. They may like to join a Spiritual Circle or Psychic Development class locally (Keep in mind they may like to trial a few until they find where they feel most comfortable). Allow them to go to Psychic fairs and Spiritual festivals and celebration. A Psychic might come and speak to them if they are over the age of 16 with parental consent to help them cope emotionally and provide them with useful tools to nurture what they have and to be in control of it also.
Spirit Connection is a beautiful thing and our children are so very blessed and in-tune. Do try to listen carefully but objectively and be supportive but also not to the point where your child becomes consumed with it. Also if a child does have a special connection with your loved one in Spirit, never hound them for information. Try not to be too excited or your child may wish to bring their ability up all the time to impress you or simply begin to make things up. Keep them grounded and neutral. That they need to be selective with who they speak to about it, for example in the classroom is not the right place. Remind your child that they are in control and if they want to, they can block it until they’re ready to deal with it, for children who might be afraid, this can be incredibly empowering! And lastly, don’t force your child to explore their ability further if they don’t want to. They don’t HAVE to use it if they choose not to.
© Melissa Gibson